Mother’s Day is a day I
dread every year. I consider staying in bed where I don’t have to face the painful
reminder that I am not a mother. I know that God plans to use my infertility to
bring glory to His name. I know that I’m better able to serve God because I don’t
have children. And I praise God for how He has been drawing me closer to Him through
this.
But there is something
about this day that threatens to undo all the good that He has been working out
in me.
On this day, I feel
left out.
On this day, I feel
lonely.
On this day, more than
any other, I have to fight to hold back the tears that want to overtake me.
My intention is not to
make women feel bad about celebrating motherhood. Being a mom is a daily
sacrifice that takes more work than I can imagine, and it should be celebrated. But
please remember that Mother’s Day is not a happy day for everyone, for many
different reasons, and take a moment to pray for those who are hurting.
To those who gave birth this year to their first
child—we celebrate with you
To those who lost a child this
year – we mourn with you
To those who are in the
trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains – we
appreciate you
To those who experienced loss
through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away—we mourn with you
To those who walk the hard path
of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk
with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this
harder than it is.
To those who are foster moms,
mentor moms, and spiritual moms – we need you
To those who have warm and
close relationships with your children – we celebrate with you
To those who have
disappointment, heart ache, and distance with your children – we sit with you
To those who lost their mothers
this year – we grieve with you
To those who experienced abuse
at the hands of your own mother – we acknowledge your experience
To those who lived through
driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of motherhood – we are
better for having you in our midst
To those who have aborted
children – we remember them and you on this day
To those who are single and
long to be married and mothering your own children – we mourn that life has not
turned out the way you longed for it to be
To those who step-parent – we
walk with you on these complex paths
To those who envisioned
lavishing love on grandchildren - yet that dream is not to be, we grieve with
you
To those who will have emptier
nests in the upcoming year – we grieve and rejoice with you
To
those who placed children up for adoption — we commend you for your
selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart
And to those who are pregnant
with new life, both expected and surprising –we anticipate with you
This Mother’s Day, we walk with
you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our
midst. We remember you – Amy at www.messymiddle.com
“Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.” –
Romans 12:15